Less Screwing, More Screwing

Years of dating, internet dating, subsequently quitting internet dating, and being the female accepted into groups of males has given me the unique vantage point of having witnessed quite a bit of ridiculous, self and other sabotaging, and just plain stupid or crazy behavior. Individuals of both genders collectively work to create sets of expectations…

Love in the Time of Pragmatism

Recently, after arriving home from visiting small town South Dakota, having stretched my five hour drive into a leisurely eight or nine hours, all I really wanted was to have a glass of whiskey, curl up with a blanket, and watch movies. Alone. Unfortunately, this desire required me to go to the liquor store to…

Love: What is it?

Have you ever been in love?  I’m not sure I have.  It’s kind of a vague concept.  It’s not like there are specific symptoms you can pinpoint to diagnose it, or anything.  I mean, I have certainly been very, very obsessed with people over the years.  But I’m a notoriously compulsive person, so that stands…

Postpartum Reflections

There is a moment before dawn when the layers of darkness lift from the sky like a gradual garage door opening and the outlines of the trees become clear against the gray.  On the shadows of our wall, I can begin to make out the shapes of the tall trees waving away the black night.…